Early last year I ended a monogamous relationship with someone I had been with for more than a decade. In the aftermath of the breakup I decided that what I most wanted at this stage in my life was sex, and lots of it. I dubbed my "year of fucking recreationally" and set out to find some hot, sweaty, messy, dirty, uncomplicated fun with like-minded friends. And find it I did! Here are some things that I learned about what it's really like to seek casual sex as a forty year old fat chick.
Feeling good about your body isn't always easy when you are overweight. While some people are "reclaiming" the word "fat" as a positive thing -three of them are featured in the video, below - Mellisa says she recognises that the word applies to her, and wishes it didn't. When I stand up to do a presentation at work, I'm all too aware that people see my size first, not me. I always start my talk by saying: "You know, my job is so stressful - when I started about a week ago I was a size 12 and look at me now! Why do I do that? Why do I self-deprecate?
In the Nutrition Setup Guide , I talked about using body-fat percentage to guide your decisions on when to cut, bulk, and chase recomp simultaneous muscle gain and fat loss phases. But as you are probably aware, ALL the body-fat measurement methods we have available have horrible inaccuracies on an individual level, and I strongly recommend people avoid trying to gauge progress based on them. Fortunately, I had 9 years of client results photos to draw from when creating it. What a wonderful trip down memory lane this was! I have no way of knowing if the categorizations you will see below are correct, but if you pair this guide with the recommendations on when to bulk vs cut , it will help guide your decisions.
I was always really active, so it was strange. I was bullied a lot throughout my school years, and I hated my body - absolutely hated it. It really affected my mental health. When I was in college, I went on a big, long-term diet and lost five stone. I was still the same person, but a lot less happy.