It started out as a flirt and then a fling and for the sex, but we soon fell deeply in love. He is quite simply the love of my life. I am married myself but very unhappy with my husband. My lover is not unhappy in his marriage and loves his wife and family. But I know that he loves or at least he did love me, by the way he has shown that love to me, respected me and treated me like a woman but at the same time his equal. No one else has ever treated me this way, least of all my husband.
The discovery that your partner is having an affair can be upsetting. But if it is an online affair, it can also be confusing and bring up many questions. You might wonder if it meets the definition of real infidelity, why they sought an online affair when you were available, and what is appealing about having a virtual affair. Online affairs can be difficult for both the injured partner to understand, as well as for the therapists who work with them as they may be more accustomed to helping clients work through in-person affairs. Online affairs can be difficult to understand for partners and the therapists they work with. Your first reaction may be to get full disclosure from your cheating spouse in the hope of understanding why it happened but be patient. Discovering and understanding your partner's online affair is a process that takes time.
It happens to the best of us: we're in a committed relationship for years, then we realize, "meh," the passion just isn't what it used to be. It might not be an easy thing to admit, but if you've ever felt that way, you're not alone. As Eric Anderson, a professor of masculinity, sexuality, and sport at the University of Winchester explains , "The most predictable thing about a relationship is that, the longer it progresses, the quality and the frequency of sex between the couple will fade. This is because we get used to and bored of the same body. Anderson also happens to be the "chief science officer" at AshleyMadison.
Evolutionary theory, gender differences, stereotype, media myth and cultural expectations invite us to recognize that men have more sexual desire than women both in frequency and intensity, are wired to have many partners, have more difficulty with monogamy and that as such, married men are more likely to have affairs than married women. The reality is that while married men have more affairs than married women The difference is not that great. The other reality is that while extra-marital affairs by definition involve a romantic and emotional relationship that has a sexual or sexualized component, research suggests that sexual drive is not the primary reason married men have affairs.